There is a misconception that likability is what fuels careers; while being liked isn’t a bad thing, it is not the same as being respected.
Think about it for a moment.
Make a list of all the people you like at work; now make a list of all the people you respect; who would you trust to support your career and work?
I’ll bet it was someone you respected, and not just someone you liked.
So, how do you become well respected at work?
Here are 3 strategies that help you to stay liked AND be well respected.
You can like someone, without trusting them.
You can respect someone without liking them.
But you cannot respect someone without trusting them, even if is only in a specific context (i.e., not liking the payroll person at work, but trusting they will get you paid accurately and on time, respecting their work).
Likability plays less of a role in respect then most of us realize, so when you have to make a choice between building likeability and respectability at work, consider erring on the side of respectability to support your career and professional potential.