Ever wonder why your body aches so much, even though you didn't do anything to deserve it? There's a simple explanation. Your body stores all it's experiences, and not just the physical ones, the emotional ones too. Where a great day can feel uplifting and energizing, a tough day can feel heavy and exhausting.
Your body knows this.
At the beginning of your day, things look great. Alarm goes off, routine is happening, and then, an unexpected disruption. You’re out of coffee. Your child is irrationally upset, or traffic is unreasonable, putting you behind schedule both factually and emotionally. You tell yourself to just keep going, there is a long list of responsibilities to get to today. You stuff the emotional side of things down in an effort to move forward, putting your time schedule back on track.
Ever wonder why parts of your body ache at work, even though you exercise regularly?
We’ve all done this, but have you ever wondered where the emotions you stuff go? They don’t just disappear. They are held as tension in some part of your body and as the day progresses those tensions add up. This shows up as tense muscles. Or mild indigestion, even though you didn’t eat anything irritating. Have you ever snapped at someone in an afternoon meeting (surprising you both)? Ever walked in the door at the end of a routine workday and wondered why you were so tired?
Over time, that tension adds up. This is what happens when you don’t acknowledge your feelings; the few simple seconds, and steps, it takes to acknowledge your feels, giving yourself loving kindness and compassion. Stuffing emotions has consequences, both mental and physical. Over time, that body tension adds up. The tension can dissolve; a pleasant surprise, a deadline aced, a compliment, a hug, an amazing fitness class or a walk with friends. However, if the tension going out isn’t keeping up with the tension going in, you end up with off and on aches, bouts of inflammation (hello Ibuprofen), and an energy crisis making it difficult to get to that walk, fitness class or date with your friends.
If this is ringing some alarm bells for you, take action. Eating right, moving your body intentionally everyday (and not just to walk to your car or to catch the bus) and getting enough sleep are all great strategies to support your well-being. So is listening to what your body is telling you. If you are white-knuckling your steering wheel on the way home, or clenching your jaw so often it hurts, check in with yourself. Sit quietly for a few minutes and listen in.
That lower back pain? It may be your sense of duty telling you to take some much needed “me time”. Your jaw ache may point to a conversation you need to have with you co-worker about including your ideas on the project you’re working on together. Mild tummy ache? Possibly you need a hug, or some quality time with a loved one. Once you know what to listen for, this doesn’t take very long (although it does need to be intentional), freeing both your emotions and yourself.
Working with Carleen I've learned to support my needs first. I was preparing myself to accept the consequences of this at work. Turns out, there were none as both my work and home life have now shown me that when I meet my needs, everything else just falls into place.