Self-confidence is one of those things you don’t think about much when you have it, but it can consume you when there’s a circumstance in life where it’s missing (like when you’re talking to someone you find intimidating, or doing something for the first time). There are so many things that erode self-confidence; being tired, feeling vulnerable or intimidated, compassion fatigue, and many more. Self-confidence is the belief you have in yourself and your abilities, leading to a sense of assurance and capability in accomplishing your goals. My biggest confidence thief? My own inner-critic (she's a real b-otch).
Self-regard, or the way in which you view and value yourself, is an important aspect of self-confidence (and inner critics attack this first). This is key, because having a healthy sense of self-regard leads to greater self-confidence, resilience, and an overall sense of satisfaction with your life. In contrast, your lack of self-regard creates unwelcome emotions such as self-doubt, insecurity, etc. and (if persistent) may put you at risk of burning out.
It’s important to monitor how you value and speak to yourself to prevent the daily grind from wearing away your self-confidence - once I learned how to do this consistently, my confidence improved in so many tangible ways. If you find yourself losing the connection to your self-worth, here are some things you can do to protect and care for your self-confidence:
Attending to your self-confidence is an important part of emotional wellbeing. Having a healthy sense of self-regard can build greater self-confidence, resilience, and stronger relationships with others. Giving yourself what you need to support your own self-confidence is key (no one else can do this for you). If you’re experiencing a persistent lack of self-confidence that contributes to ongoing negative thoughts about yourself, unwelcome emotions and unwanted behaviours, consider seeking guidance from a therapist or mental health professional.
I discovered that self-regard is the foundation on which our identity is built (at work and in life). I learned the importance of prioritizing my self-regard and taking the necessary steps to cultivate a healthy and positive view of myself to protect my self-regard and stay confident. And I can say it works, it takes practice, but I'm worth it.
How about you?