There was a time when I became really frustrated, living the story I kept telling to myself in my head. It wasn’t a good story, I kept repeating the awful bits on a perpetual loop (like when I screwed up and missed significant business opportunities). I became really sick of myself. But I also found myself clinging to this cycle because I felt if I didn’t acknowledge my mistake in a meaningful way, I wouldn’t have learned anything and I would end up repeating it. Pivot on the word “meaningful”, as repetition doesn’t actually guarantee meaning, but it did suck a lot of energy out of me and erode my confidence. Not the definition I hold of meaningful, but then I was in a different place when this happened.
I love the outlook that time gives us, as if your whole life were unfolding on a spiral staircase; traveling upward we can see where we have come from, and look at it with 360 degrees of perspective. The only time you are not traveling upwards is when you get stuck. It is lonely on that circular stairway when you are trapped with only yourself and self-judgement for company. The best ways to get un-stuck are to move differently. Here are five approachable ways to do this:
“The details of your life do not matter as much as where you are living those details from...”