Deep confession – I don’t feel like working today.
I long for the freedom to sleep in, then drink my coffee slowly in the sunshine. I want to throw off the constriction of schedule, deadlines and having to be accountable to someone else’s needs and expectations.
Far from being an indication of laziness, this longing is part of an early warning system, one I have learned to pay attention to because it is happening at the level of my soul.
These longings tell me I am getting close to depletion, not energetically but spiritually. They tell me it’s time to slow down and replenish myself.
Inconveniently, this always happens at the busiest times of the year!
Busyness has become an epidemic in our society. Think about it as a drinking game, if every time someone expressed how busy they were you had to take a shot, you’d be loaded by lunchtime. Every day.
So, here are my tricks for getting what I need, when I need it, stepping out of the “busyness vortex”.
I call it my Busyness Combat Program:
I’m purposefully trying not to express busyness to others in my life because it confirms the “glamour” of being busy, and being busy is not glamourous, it’s a maladaptive coping mechanism (you are using busyness as an unhealthy way to get something you need). Each of us choose how busy we are (yup, it’s a choice, and if it doesn’t feel that way to you, book a call with me today).
Check in and see if you are wearing busyness as a badge of honour; as a way to feel relevant, a way to show others how important you are. Then ask yourself if you are really feeling relevant at work (or is it the opposite, you’re working hard because you are afraid you are not relevant)? Ask yourself if you are recognized and valued at work (or just working hard hoping busyness will get you the recognition you deserve)?
Busyness is the biggest piece of emotional bull-shit we as a society have ever constructed.
It doesn’t ensure your work is value-add, impactful or relevant to your employer. It means you are over-identifying with your work, living to work, not working to live. And it is a career killer because when you repeatedly say you’re “busy” what you’re really saying to someone else is that they are not important making others feel put down (whether you meant to do that or not). That kind of reputational mistake is hard to shake at work.
So, when your soul rebels and you don’t feel like working, listen to it and give yourself the break you need. It supports you and all those whose lives you touch.